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Teaching Kids to Accept Delayed Satisfaction
We all have
times when we want what we want right now, and then feel frustrated when we
need to wait. For those with learning disabilities the delayed satisfaction may
be stretched out even further if trying to learn a new skill and repeatedly failing.
It takes patience to accept it may take still longer to get what we want or wish to achieve. But, with time and trying again and again we can usually get to the goal.
Patience is the key word in achieving anything worthwhile. If we accept that it may take longer than planned to get where we want or what we want, we can remain calm in the meantime.
For example, I would love to have a bowl of pistachio ice cream for dessert tonight, but I'm not able to get to the store until tomorrow. In the meantime I have chocolate fudge ice cream bars in the freezer and I accept they are good, too, and I don't get upset by having to wait an extra day for my favorite.
Sometimes accepting a substitute is necessary, because the number one choice is not available.
Wanting instant satisfaction is not worth it if it upsets our peace of mind, or frustrates us so much that we spend time dwelling on what we can't have immediately, instead of calmly accepting that we will be able to have it eventually.
If we are trying to learn a skill, does it really matter if it takes longer to master than we thought it should, if in the end we do achieve the goal?
Accepting that satisfaction will be delayed can be learned by practicing waiting. Being patient with ourselves gives us calm time to reach our goal without getting upset in the process. By remaining calm we can more easily think through the reasons we are having to wait for satisfaction.
What makes delayed satisfaction more bearable is staying calm, being patient, and remembering that we will eventually reach our goal or get what we want.
Happiness may seem to be dependent on receiving desired results as soon as possible, but happiness is maintaining harmony and peace in our thinking. Objects come and go and we'll always want more and more.
What gives us the deepest daily satisfaction is remaining calm inside, no matter what is happening outside, no matter that we have to wait awhile for what we want. We teach our kids patience by showing we are patient adults.
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