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Learning Disabilities Articles for Help with Kids by Susan Kramer


1. What Is Dysgraphia?
2. Dyslexia Information and Help
3. Oppositional Defiant Disorder - Symptoms
Oppositional Defiant Disorder - Explained
5. Oppositional Defiant Disorder - Managing Anger
6. What Is Childhood Disintegrative Disorder  - CDD?
Hyperlexia Information
8. Asperger's Disorder Information
9. TSC and Learning Disabilities
Living Harmoniously with Learning Disabilities
11. Cooperation and Learning Disabilities
12. Overcoming Stress
13. Dividing Time Between Your Kids
14. Helping Kids with Challenges Make Friends
15. Learning Difficulties or Disabilities?
16. Making Transitions and Learning Disabilities
17. Helping Kids Find New Solutions
18. Back to School Dress When Challenged
19. Showing Courage and Learning Disabilities
20. Teach Kids to Stay Close to Home
21. Feeling Fear and Learning Disabilities
22. Kids Learn Trustworthiness
23. Multitasking Ideas
24. Laziness or Learning Disabilities?
25. Helping Kids Reach Their Goals
26. Family Roundtable Discussions with Kids
27. Materialism Issues
28. Illness or Accident Leading to a Challenge
29. Vocational or Academics for Challenged Teens?
30. Expectations and Relating
31. Nurturing Kids of All Abilities
32. Our Roles in the Eyes of Society
Developing Self-Esteem
34. Changing Goals and Learning Disabilities
35. Shopping Trips Can Be Educational
36. Achievement with Learning Disabilities
37. Resolving Conflicts and Learning Disabilities
38. Teaching Kids Order and Organization
39. Family Life with Learning Disabilities
40. Backyard Motor Skills Games
41. Truancy and Learning Disabilities
42. Kids Learn About Playing Fairly
43. Looking for Equitable Resolves
44. Aerobic Activities for Stress Relief in School
45. Acceptance, Abundance and Learning Disabilities
46. Kids Learn About Sharing

30. Expectations and Relating

What we can expect in a relationship is to have a mutual sharing of caring. We should expect of ourselves, that we need to share our love in a caring manner. What we cannot expect in a relationship is to determine how, and in what manner our partner will share their love with us.

We are in charge of determining the method of carrying out our own actions. And, our partner is in charge of determining the method of carrying out their own actions. And we are incharge of determining how to care for our children. We need to give plenty of time to a child with learning disabilities. That is so important to their future success in society.

When we are only in a relationship with ourselves, we determine our actions, and as long as we are acting for the best of each situation that we are in, the method of acting remains wholly with us.

When we have a partner, we need to take into consideration how our actions will impact our relationship. If we are acting for the highest good of the situation, we are acting as we should in our relationship, whether or not our partner accepts or rejects our ways and means.

Acting for the highest good of the situation in the relationship allows our body to stay relaxed and allows us to retain our peace of mind.

Each person is the compilation and product of their past history. Along the way, we each learn by trial and error how to get our needs and desires fulfilled. It may have been an individual path to this point in time for each of us. We cannot expect another person's means of expression and action to be identical to our own methods. They have gone through a different "school of life."

We can request and make our relationship needs and desires known to our partner, but the exact method they use to show us their caring is completely their determination, which will be based on the compilation of their life experiences.

In relationship or not, we cannot expect another person to give us happiness or any form of fulfillment. Our personal happiness is our state of being when we are thinking and acting in harmony and lovingly with the highest good of each situation, moment to moment to moment.

The expectation of getting happiness from a partner is a selfish attitude that precludes our personal happiness. When we act selfishly we act without regard for the highest good of the situation. Selfishness is isolation in action. Truly, no person is so independent on this planet that they can survive without using something that another has had a hand in providing.

The expectation that our partner will provide our personal happiness is never possible. The attitude and actions of selfishness, getting or taking from another for self-gratification is contradictory to living for the highest good of the whole situation. Harmonizing our attitudes, thoughts and actions with the highest good, ongoingly, is really what produces our feelings of happiness, ongoingly.

These are the lessons we need to pass on to our children to give them a head start in realizing their state of happiness and harmony is within, brought to the forefront by caring with their siblings, classmates and adults in their lives.

Article by Susan Kramer


Resources for parents, teachers and homeschooling families:

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Rhythms and Dances for School Age Kids

Rhythms and Dances for School Age Kids
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Rhythms and Dances for Toddlers and Preschoolers

Rhythms and Dances for Toddlers and Preschoolers
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Kinesthetic Math and Language Lessons

Kinesthetic Math and Language Lessons
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All articles copyright 2000-2011 Susan Helene Kramer
Susan Kramer has worked as a dance specialist with kids and adults of all abilities for more than 30 years,
and lives with her husband in Amsterdam, The Netherlands. Click autobiography for details.