Just because you're a senior, and sex on demand like in youth is a
memory, doesn't mean you can't enjoy loving sexual intimacy with your partner.
I believe the main reason for expressing sexuality is development of
deep love, the kind of love that is a sharing and caring: spiritual in
nature.
In younger years, close encounters may come up and go down without deep
emotional bonding. But as time goes on and we learn to appreciate one
another, we learn that expressing love with an attitude of caring
brings us into closer attunement with each other, while also aligning
with our deeper nature.
Senior sex is a time to spend in relaxed intimate cuddling and unrushed kissing
without planning for a grand finale. Cuddling lends itself to the
emotional closeness we may have been seeking in earlier years, but
didn't find because of the rush for that blaze of glory.
Taking time for closeness with your partner is an opportunity to relax
into other dimensions beyond physical. It is a chance to express your
deepest loving thoughts and emotions safely. It is a time to set aside daily
problems and worldly issues and refocus on life as a couple.
When we begin our journey as mates there is much we learn by trial and
error, and only after time do we get to the stage of comfort where we
begin spiritual couple-growth.
The senior years afford more free time than ever, and with the comfort
of an emotionally caring relationship we are more likely to experience
our deeper spiritual nature in the forms of kindness, caring,
nurturing, the circle of giving and receiving. And with a growing sense
of connection at home it is easier to contemplate our connection with
our larger worldwide family.
Taking time for closeness and expression of warmth and tenderness in
all our actions allows spirituality to blossom in our senior years.
When we develop a deeper, kinder love with our partner, we are likely
to share more kindly with others in daily interactions.
Living lovingly
The river of spirituality
Breaches its banks.
Article and photo of Meditation Mount, Ojai, California by Susan Helene Kramer
Susan Kramer writes on social issues from a
spiritual point of view and many other topics for kids and adults. She lives with her husband, Stan Schaap, in The Netherlands.
Photo: Stan and Susan July 2007