The Yearning to Merge
Susan Kramer
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1. Blanketing
Love—Summer-Weight 11. Loyalty
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1. Blanketing Love, Summer-Weight
A thermal blanket covers us, but has air pockets that allow
our bodies to breathe. We feel its warmth without feeling suffocated.
Sharing our love is at best a
blanket of warm caring. But, if we smother those we love with a blanket of
control and expectation they will eventually need to rip off the cover, as
everyone needs time and opportunities to breathe on their own, in their own
way.
Instead, love that is offered
in proportion to the needs of the moment has the flexibility to adapt and grow,
remaining a useful blanket of comfort during all seasons of life.
Love constant
Blanketing lightly
Received gracefully
Mirrored brightly
2. Bonding and Marriage
Friendship grows, deepens—
expressing mentally, physically, emotionally
B onding
O n
N ever ending
D eepening levels of
I ntimacy
N earer every day to experiencing
G enuine Love
Marriage
Comin' together
one on one
Carin' and sharin'
Enjoyin' the fun
Two lives aligning
Settin' forth goals
Two hearts in harmony
no matter what goes
Or comes a knockin'
shakin' their ways
Together by choice
the rest of their days
3. Casual to Commitment to Marriage
Relationship communion
is union
From an ongoing relationship
a point in time comes
where another level must be entered
for the relationship
to grow into permanence
Unconditional Acceptance
Unconditional Love
The binding ingredient
allowing us to successfully cross
into the permanence of marriage
The partners must feel that
they will bear with one another in future situations—no matter what the other
is going through. The decision to commit comes at the point in time when we
become detached enough to observe how the other is on a regular basis.
From this observation point,
we need to ask ourselves if we could maintain our own peacefulness and caring
under these circumstances in a daily living situation. It is important to face
this analysis, so that the relationship can, if seen to be unconditionally
acceptable, be allowed to expand to the level of life mates.
If both partners can not fully accept each other unconditionally, it is time
to back off into a less involved relationship. This is not the time to plunge
ahead into a live-in situation in hopes of working through obstacles. Pain and
discomfort result when obstacles are compounded by living together. The
relationship becomes a head-to-head situation, because the two minds are trying
to work out issues that are inherently part of each person's point of view. Whereas, unconditional acceptance from both, for each other, is the
harmony of hearts cooperating for the highest common good.
Relationship communion is union
The marriage union
being sustained
by unconditional acceptance
Unconditional Love
4. Deeply Interactive Human Love
Inspiring are the
reflections
of intelligent harmony in nature
Panoramic sunrises and sunsets
Colorful scented blossoms
The overwhelming majesty of mountains
ascending through the clouds
The peaceful wash of sea
dissolving into the distant horizon
Our rhythmic and cyclical nature
But more than by observing and appreciating
the beauty and intelligence of nature
We can experience the innate vibrance
through the inter-relatedness
of deep human love
As we gaze with love upon or
think about our beloved, the natural beauty and harmony manifests as an
energized vibrant spring in our body, coming from our core. A profuse
lovingness warms our physical body, bringing to our mind a sense of wholeness,
wellbeing, and awareness of our transcendental self.
In the depths of intimacy
between loving souls we transcend our awareness of ourselves as just observers
of nature's beauty, intelligence, and harmony.
In the depths of loving human intimacy
we come to experience
our unseen roots of consciousness
as stretching backward
therefore, ever forward in time
We come to realize that our
consciousness of love and connection is alive in us, whether or not we are in
the physical presence of our beloved, and beloved relatives
and friends. And in this parallel we know that our source of life—Love—is ever
alive as a flood of intelligent vibrant energy welling up from deep within.
Deeply interactive human love
Direct experience of our immortal Source
Direct experience
of our immortal source of Love
5. Designing and Blueprinting a Relationship
The blueprint for building a
relationship
comes from the co-designers
When a solid foundation of friendship is laid
the visible form of the relationship
will have many rooms
to serve the needs of each person
With common areas in time and place for sharing
The blueprint for a
relationship can look perfect on paper, but the adjustments needed in daily
living call for ongoing revisions.
Communicating our needs and
expectations must be conveyed during the designing phase of the relationship,
before the first set of working drawings can be made.
Even though we are
blueprinting a relationship, our highest personal goal of living the most conscious
good we are aware of, moment to moment, must be maintained. All other projects
and goals need to be supportive of our choice to live as our most conscious
selves.
The blueprint for living
built upon by giving
The blueprint for a relationship
manifesting through lovingness
With space for alone time
alongside joint ventures
The rooms of our house
becoming the form called
Our Home
6. Emotional Loving
Emotion—
Expressive aspects of our mind
Emotion—
Variable as our moods
as opposed to the constancy
of unconditional love
truthfulness, harmony, faithfulness
Because emotions are
variable, when we tie love to an emotion, we are making our love feelings
variable. There are going to be times when our emotional love will be
expressing, times it will be gone, and times when the same emotional energy
will mutate to other forms of emotion, such as negativity and anger.
At the beginning of a
romantic attraction our positive state of mind stimulates vitality in our body.
We interpret this physically charged state as having fallen in love. We are
feeling attachment and energized at this time, but it is not from an outside
source or cause.
When we think about another in a positive way
we start experiencing our own state of lovingness
Feeling vitalized in our body
we are expanding in awareness
beyond self-limitation
Tasting, with quality
our own soul's
Expansive Love
To maintain this awakened
awareness of lovingness within us, we need to take a giant step in
consciousness by understanding that the other person is not giving us the awareness, rather they have awakened our own dormant state
of lovingness. The process of stepping from temporary emotional loving to that
of feeling the Source of love, and manifesting this vital energy takes time.
The temporality of emotional
love serves a higher purpose though, it sparks us to
look for its permanent source. When we realize the Source is within us already,
we gain the power and control, by our willpower and positive thinking, to use
lovingness at any time, in any situation. We can then manifest that great
vitalized love energy in our attitudes and actions with our partner, family,
friends, and the whole world.
Loving emotions
springing from within rather than from without
flowing from our own Source, our Soul
Experiencing the
Joyfulness of our Soul…
We feel joyful when we are loving
and creating
By expanding from what
was previously known to us
we taste the nature of our soul
Our soul
As it is only centered in our consciousness
has not the barrier of our physical body
blocking the way it experiences
It is limited thinking that
keeps our lives repetitive and boring. Expansive creative thinking makes use of
our vitality. Vitality is a limitless source of energy available to us when we
have positive attitudes and thoughts. As vital energy flows through us our
mental barriers seem to melt away, allowing us to experience the joyfulness of
our limitless soul. We come to know ourselves, our soul, as expanded
joyfulness.
Our mind can be trained to
serve as our useful tool for experiencing the limitlessness of our soul.
Some useful techniques for
training our mind to serve us:
1. Meditating. We become
aware that we are the observer of events as well as the initiator and
experiencer: sitting quietly, we can observe the variety of thoughts running
across the inner field of mind, the internal movie screen. Note that any event
can take place in our mind, while our body remains calm and relaxed. From this
we learn that we have free will to determine our physical actions.
2. Holding positive
attitudes and thoughts. When a negative thought arises, using our creativity to
find a positive resolve.
3. Taking in clean,
healthful substances that nourish the body.
4. Maintaining cleanliness
and orderliness of body and surroundings.
5. Practicing both a
meditative and aerobic physical activity—an example would be the combination of
hatha yoga and brisk walking.
When we become master of our
mind (and the body's subsequent actions), our mind becomes our useful tool, promoting
our joyful state of living. Then we are experiencing the joyful nature of our
soul.
Joyfully experiencing our Soul
through free-will actions
born of Love
Life
L etting
I ntuition F ind
E xpression
Life is an adventure in
discovering who we are and our role in the creation. Living and growing from
trial and error, we gain insight, wisdom, and depth of understanding. Our life
travels lead us beyond preconceived horizons.
LIFE—letting intuition find expression,
is allowing our curiosity to manifest, discovering what is going on in our
environment and in us. It is growth from the inside out.
Intuition is the suspicion
we carry inside us, that as we are beings of love and intelligence, we must
have manifested from a Creator of even greater lovingness and intelligence.
Allowing intuition
inborn knowingness
its full expansion
Coming to know who we are
and all that our life can be
Discovering that our emotionally
loving feelings
are but a part of our whole
Through actions born of unconditional love
finding the completeness
and permanence in love that we seek
as the outpouring of our Soul
as the Quality of our Soul
7. Expectation in Relationship
Expecting ourselves
to be loving and caring in our relationship
Preserving our inner harmony
Allowing us to remain happy
What we can expect in a
relationship is to have a mutual sharing of caring love. We should expect of ourselves, that we need to share our love in a caring
manner. What we can not expect in a relationship is
to determine how, and in what manner, our partner will share their love with
us.
We are in charge of
determining the method of carrying out our own actions. And, our partner is in
charge of determining the method of carrying out their own actions.
When we are only in a
relationship with ourselves, we determine our actions, and as long as we are
acting for the best of each situation that we are in, the method of acting
remains wholly with us.
When we have a partner, we
need to take into consideration how our actions will impact our relationship.
If we are acting for the highest good of the situation, we are acting as we
should in our relationship, whether or not our partner accepts or rejects our
ways and means.
Acting for the highest good
of the situation in the relationship allows our body to stay relaxed and allows
us to retain our peace of mind.
Each person is the
compilation and product of their past history. Along the way, we each learn by
trial and error how to get our needs and desires fulfilled. It has been an
individual path to this point in time for each of us.
We cannot expect another
person's means of expression and action to be identical to our own methods, they have gone through a different "school of
life."
We can request and make our
relationship needs and desires known to our partner, but the exact method our
partner uses to show us their caring is completely their determination, which
will be based on the compilation of their life experiences.
In relationship or not, we
cannot expect another person to give us happiness or any form of fulfillment.
Our personal happiness is our state of being when we are thinking and acting in
harmony and lovingly with the highest good of each situation, moment to moment
to moment.
The expectation of getting
happiness from a partner is a selfish attitude that precludes our personal
happiness. When we act selfishly we act without regard for the highest good of
the situation. Selfishness is isolation in action. Truly, no person is so
independent on this planet that they can survive without using something that
another has had a hand in providing.
The expectation that our
partner will provide our personal happiness is never possible. The attitude and
actions of selfishness, getting or taking from another for self-gratification,
is contradictory to living for the highest good of the whole situation.
Harmonizing our attitudes, thoughts and actions with the highest good, ongoingly, is really what produces our feelings of
happiness, ongoingly.
8. Humanity in Marriage—Communion of Body, Mind, Heart
Humanity in marriage
Communion
of body, mind, heart, soul
Nothing less
The long-term purpose of
marriage is to transcend the depths of our partner's body, mind, heart, soul—in
doing so, reaching beyond the limitations of our own barriers and self-centered
bondage, beyond our self-preoccupation.
Full humanness in marriage,
communion of body, mind, heart, soul, is perfectly suited for opening us to our
own full nature of unconditional love. In unconditional love we accept that
what another is going through is what they need to go through at the moment and
we support their choices for self-growth.
Every act in a marriage
impacts the partner. If acts are with kindness and caring then each partner is
nurtured. For nurturing, holding each other close is of utmost importance,
because, while we are humans and in these physical bodies. The act of mating
bonds and re-bonds and catapults our self-centeredness into self-expansiveness.
The self-exposure
of physical intimacy
opens us to our loving emotions
Is there any state of being
more precious or fulfilling than a human marriage enjoying full communion of
body, mind, heart and soul—searing through the core of one another into
universal love and care for everyone else and all creation?
9. In Consuming We Contract; In Loving We Expand
Consuming—Contracting
Loving—Expanding
We might think it is the
opposite; that by consuming we are gaining and that by loving we are giving
ourselves away.
It is what we do after we consume
that makes the difference
If we use our consumption to
fortify ourselves, solely, we are reinforcing the false idea that we are
separate from that which is outside our own body. We are contracting in consciousness,
rather than expanding in consciousness.
When we use our personal
gains as tools of sharing, by including others in our circle of caring, we are
effectively using our consumption to expand our capacity of lovingness.
Loving
more and more and more
erases barriers
we thought were there
Filling our lives
with more, and more, and more
Love
10. Love or Lust?
When we feel love we want to
give
When we feel lust we want to take
Lust desires energy from
another for self-gratification.
Love cares how the beloved
feels, what his or her needs are, what will add to the partner's happiness.
We look at another and feel
desire. We want to consume their body, be as sensual as possible. But, are we thinking of that person's needs?
Probably our thoughts are
centered on the activity that will satisfy our own senses. That is lust.
In loving a person we think:
What can I give of myself that will make the other feel cared for or cared
about? We try our utmost to please the beloved. Our happiness comes by the mere
thinking and acting for another's highest benefit and happiness.
Love does not depend on
reciprocation. Its nature is permanence, a quality of our immortal soul. Love
does not need to get anything or any response—it is self-sustaining.
If we say we love someone,
mate with them and after a time there are no feelings of inner fulfillment, we
have been immersed in lust, not the permanence of love. We have only been
depending on the partner to fill our sense needs.
Real human love manifests at
the time on our spiritual path when we begin to care about others as well as
ourselves. People whose consciousness is centered on their sense gratification
will not be able to experience an interchange of love with another person.
To develop the capacity to love truly
Practice caring for others
in thought, word and action
Showing care in addition to
feeling lust opens us to the interchange, the exchange and depth of human love.
This interplay is the play of the Divine. The ultimate goal is to experience
the love of the Divine already residing in us.
Companionship in
Relationship—
A Means of Developing Love...
When we are kind,
considerate and caring, and treated likewise by our partner, we reflect our
inner and relationship harmony outwardly in the world.
Communication between
partners takes place on various levels: Verbal, physical, emotional and also in
the fullness of silence. We can sit in a room with our beloved, feeling his or
her presence, though we may each be engrossed in separate activities. This kind
of communication is a deep richer experience that the limitation of verbal,
physical and emotional.
Beyond physically being
together in the same room is the silent comfort of caring love which transcends
time and place. Here we experience the fulfillment of the loved one even when
separated. These feelings arise from within us, a gift to ourselves,
the gift of ourselves, our Real Self, our Real Lasting Permanent nature. This
fullness in feeling for another is not dependent on the feedback of the partner.
No one can rob us of our love feelings for another, because true love is not
dependent on anything or any circumstance in the material world.
A Means of Developing
'Universal' Love…
As the couple experience the
deepening levels of communication, verbal, silent, transcendental, they are
preparing themselves for the realization that it is possible to love all,
everyone. Nothing stands in the way or can ever hold us back from feeling love
for others.
Some may feel guilty in
loving someone other than their partner, but this need not be—love and caring
feelings do not ask for a return in kind of love and care.
We can just silently love,
love, love—feeling the closeness and fullness with everyone without any person
even knowing we feel this way, if that is most appropriate. It is our lasting
internal communication, companionship, with all humanity and nature.
How can this Real love be
fulfilling if our partner or another we truly love does not respond in kind?
The very act of feeling care
and love for another is a happy experience—the happiness does not come after
the act, it occurs during the action. This is the crucial point. Happiness
occurs during feeling love for others not at a later date. A fact we can
analyze for ourselves from our own experiences.
When we love and expect a
response we experience a certain amount of tension because we don't know
exactly how much love we will get in return. The energy that we could be
spending in loving and in feeling happy, we instead spend in thinking about
reciprocation.
When we just love
we experience what everyone wants
The unending flow of happiness and joy
Thoughts and perspectives
that are not in harmony with love and care constantly change depending on our transient
moods and the environment. Thoughts based on receiving a reciprocation of love
cause us unrest. We are negating the chances of feeling love as a continual
flow of energy throughout our body.
Just as warp and woof
threads are interwoven to form cloth, partners weave their complementary
energies, through caring interchanges, forming harmonious bonds.
And as with the separate
threads in a cloth, we have our own thinking mind, body, and personality. When
we come together and share from our individual attributes, we create a rich
living tapestry that had no existence when the threads of our separate lives
were lying apart.
Partner to partner sharing
Lives interwoven
in lovingness, caring
Partner to partner sharing
Creating a masterpiece
of fulfillment
in lovingness, caring
Lovingness, caring
with one another
and reflected outwardly
with all of the world
11. Loyalty
Loyalty
Doing what one has committed to
amidst changing circumstances
Loyalty is a quality that
develops our consciousness. Loyalty leads us deep into a situation, through it,
and out the other side, emerging as a more developed person.
Loyalty is an essential in
friendship. Acquaintances become friends through mutual loyalty.
Loyalty is an essential in friendship
that has developed
into the commitment of hearts
between two people
Loyalty in a heart to heart relationship
develops mutual trust
It is our duty to be loyal
to those who depend on us: family, friends, our employer or employee.
Loyalty is caring love in action
Loyalty is powered by the energy
that comes into our body
by our caring attitudes and thoughts
Loyalty develops our soul
in consciousness
Transforming us into
the most beautiful
creation of a human being possible
12. Observing Atonement; At-One-Ment
Separated out by syllables,
the word atonement is and means returning to At-One-Ment,
in the sense that we are meant through atonement to realize we are at one with
the creation—molecularly intertwined as well as in our daily interactions.
Setting aside time for atonement
is right for each of us
and not just yearly, either
But rather daily
before we close our eyes each night
When we truly realize how
intertwined we are in the lives of other people we start acting for them as we
would want to be treated ourselves. Because, in fact, in the grand scheme we
are in at-one-ment with everyone and everything in
our Creator-Sustainer's Heart. And in making amends to a person we are then
drawn into further interaction with them which draws us into a still deeper
awareness of our inter-connection.
"To err is human, to
forgive divine" seems to imply that it takes a raised consciousness to be
self-giving rather than maintain the purely animal consciousness of
self-serving. (Self-serving leads to more erring than self-giving.)
When we realize
that being 'divine' and forgiving
making atonement
realizing our At-One-Ment
is really part of our holiness
our wholeness-our humanity
we bring about the real communion within us—
that state of union with our divinity
And in unity-communion
we experience bliss
13. Penetration
To penetrate is to open and
enter
To be penetrated is to allow
our inner resources
to be released
into the flow of harmony
When we are penetrated
we are opened to fuller aspects of ourselves
We say that we penetrate
others' minds when they seem to understand a concept or point of view that we
are espousing.
By allowing deep experiences
in living we are like an explorer in the jungle blazing trails, seeing more of
life.
Every experience gives us
the opportunity to deepen our awareness of who we are. How is that possible?
Every outer experience
is a reflection coming about
because we are first having
the inner experience
Everything we do first
began in its unseen form
Outer displays reflections
of inner concepts and emotions
When we experience
penetration we allow the very root of an experience to come up to our awareness
and realization. As we accumulate realizations we integrate them into our daily
life.
The closer we come to Self-awareness
the closer we come
to experiencing our Creator and Sustainer
Loving, caring feelings
motivate us to act lovingly. Love cuts through the dross of physical and mental
barriers.
Love
has no physical
or mental bindings
or form
Love can penetrate and pierce
to the core of reality
To penetrate fully
and be penetrated
requires feelings of caring love on the outgoing
and surrender, acceptance
on the incoming
Penetration
Realignment with our Source
by going within
through outer forms
14. Second Time Around
The more we practice
and apply ourselves
the more effective and efficient we become
Second, third, fourth,
fifth—each time, using the compounded wisdom gained—makes succeeding times
better. And as we perfect our personal qualities, we reflect on our actions
with greater levels of awareness and consciousness.
The important aspect in striving
is to keep striving
Then, we eventually work
through the obstacles on the 'course' called living. The more obstacles we run,
jump, and climb over, the closer we get to our goal. The effort used to climb
up the rocks on the mountain side yields the limitless vista; which the quick
slide down the mountain side to the gully does not afford.
The end result
of repeated efforts in self-improvement are worth it when the vista of
expanded consciousness is finally experienced.
When we take from each trial
and error what is most useful and continue this way, our perfection of being is
realized.
Keeping up the effort
time after time
Reaching for the goal
Knowing our soul
Conscience to
Consciousness…
Conscience: direction from
our Creator for our usefulness in daily living.
When a question arises in
our mind about what we should to do in a particular situation, it is our
conscience that lets us know the wisest resolve. Here's how: Our body feels
relaxed and our mind calm when we are thinking about and doing what is best for
all concerned. The more unrest and stress we feel in our body, mind, and
emotions, the further we are from the truth for us. By paying attention to our
bodily feeling, emotions, and thoughts, over and over again, we can assess our
progress in making wise decisions, those for the highest good of the situation.
By following our conscience
we become increasingly conscious
Realizing more fully
our human potential
As we follow the wise
directive of our conscience, by making every decision from a relaxed body and
calm mind we become more easily conscious of what is best for us at any time.
After practicing following our conscience consistently, the answers to new
situations come to our mind almost spontaneously. That is how we develop
wisdom.
Following our conscience
leads to consciousness, to wisdom. Daily life becoming easier when the wisdom
we need is instantly available.
Conscience to consciousness
by acting for the highest good
Constancy…
Constancy: acting
consistently predictably. Constancy: an unbroken flow toward the goal.
In daily life we maintain
constancy to fulfill our responsibilities. We keep our support system, our
body, well fed, exercised, and our mind peaceful. This support system is our
'home base' with which we reach out and work from each day. We prepare and
maintain ourselves so that we can give life our best effort.
Constancy: whether life
seems up or down, making the effort to move forward. The more we take
responsibility for our life, the more we have conscious control over
happenings. It feels better being aware. Our body becomes our useful servant,
ready with the needed energy at a moment's notice.
Our mind
having assumed positive attitudes
gives us just the right creative solution
The energy of constancy
consistently in tune with our conscience
develops consciousness
Confirmation…
Confirmation
Substantiation
Affirming what is right
and then acting wisely
We confirm our actions with
ourselves by checking in with our feelings and conscience, to be sure we are
acting harmoniously in our current circumstances.
Personal confirmation is
important for growth in consciousness. If we can confirm each of our actions
with our stamp of approval, we develop the ability to judge consistently what
is right for us in daily living.
Determination
Affirmation
Confirmation
Determining with conscience
Affirming with mind
Confirming by action
Sensory Awareness…
Using all dimensions of ourselves
we come to know our lasting Self
As humans we've been given
antennas, receptors, and transmitters, in body and mind, to make the best use
of our environment for our development and optimal growth on the path of
full-feeling, fulfillment.
We need to allow every sense
we're aware of to function openly, completely.
Fully receiving input
Considering its impact on our life
Transmitting its wisdom lovingly
Sensory awareness
Awareness of the senses
as tools
in living, loving, being
Second time around
third, fourth, or fifth
Growing ever more aware
Growing ever more aware in consciousness
15. Tenderness
Tenderness
Performing any action
with an attitude of gentle care
Its benefits
A purer feeling in the doer
Comfort in the receiver
Gentle human touch, begun
with mother and child, feels good and is nourishing for children and adults,
alike, throughout life. Tenderness in dealing mind to mind gets the same
positive feedback. When we see a situation that could stand some changing, we
get a more receptive response if we first point out the good.
At home, at work, or at school
if we treat those around us with consideration
we will likely get a response in kind
When we lose our tempers it
is easy to blame someone. Actually, we have allowed a situation to affect us
negatively, and we then get angry within ourselves and explode emotionally
outwardly. Realizing that events are temporary and that all problems have a
resolve helps us to relax during the process of conflict,
and be kinder to those involved with
what we are going through.
Looking back
we see that every problem had a resolve
And that it follows that future problems
will resolve equitably, too
In the meantime
Life is more enjoyable
if we are tender
in our dealings with loved ones, friends
Everyone
Tenderness—a baseline for
spiritual living...
Living a spiritual life
means more than one hour of church a week. It involves moment to moment, day to
day integration of insight into all aspects of living.
We live in the spirit
by following our conscience
in all our actions
Each of our words or deeds
should not hurt ourselves or another
Everyone should benefit
from time on earth
Spiritual living means
living with happiness and joy, products experienced during the actual process
of doing good. We may think that happiness comes after we attain something such
as a material possession or status or wealth. No. When we attain something we
soon want something more. On and on. If we analyze
this idea for ourselves, from our own experience, we notice that
the happiness felt from attaining
something doesn't fulfill us permanently. New wants creep in to the mind soon.
Lasting happiness is
experienced from consistently acting with tenderness in all our actions, not
with acquiring relationships or objects. By living with the attitude of
tenderness and care we are integrating every goal that living a spiritual life
is pointing us toward.
One might think that
personal care means taking time out from total spiritual living. Not so. We
need to maintain a healthy body and mind to feel happy. Moment to moment our
state of physical health affects our thoughts and conversely our state of mind
affects the physical sensations we feel in our body. We contribute to our
overall health by holding positive attitudes, taking time to methodically
resolve stressful situations as they present, spending regular periods in
reflection and meditation, and by maintaining our body through wholesome diet,
exercise, bathing, and resting. When we feel good mentally and physically
happiness naturally flows through our lives.
Back to
meditation for the moment…
Meditation balances out the
portion of our time we spend in activity. It provides an opportunity, through
lying still in deep relaxation or by sitting still, to really allow loving
thoughts and feelings to swell up from our inner depths, usually hidden by our
fast-paced world. Tender feelings, caring feelings are allowed their time and
space. And after meditation these tender thoughts, having been brought to
consciousness, more easily integrate into our daily living.
Love—tender love
is eternal
Tender love is eternal
because its existence is not rooted in the changing world of elements.
Molecules are constantly rearranging. Candle wax, one minute solid, the next
burned releasing the energy of heat. And our own physical body created out of
simple elements again returns to simple elements when we flee it one day.
Love begins as an energy
force before being molded physically. Love arising from the individual soul,
when transmitted through mans' mind into action, tender caring action, then
becomes a solid force in our lives.
The energy for loving
comes from the Source
from the Source that created our soul
Love can be permanent
because our Source is permanent
Feelings of love do not cease
when external circumstances change…
Love transcends time and
place and dimension. One can feel love for another whether or not the beloved
is near, far, or even still in physical form.
When we are conscious of
feeling tender love for our dear ones and for all humankind, we are in
happiness. Our own state of happiness is not dependent on a response to our
love. Happiness is self-supporting—the property of the individual soul, the
over soul, what we know as God. If a person does not respond in kind to our
love for them that does not make us stop loving them.
Real love is concerned for
the good, the highest benefit and happiness of another apart from our own gain from
the relationship. We say there are many forms of love. Actually there is but
one form. All true, real love contains care for another's highest good without
thought of reciprocal care.
Selfishness could be said to
be the withholding of love, as if we were not getting enough return for our
investment. So we are either really loving or we are doing business for
another's energy.
The soul is experienced in
pure tender love, love that is without the properties of time, space, or
circumstances in the physical dimension, which depends on cause and effect for
its temporary existence.
Through experiencing real
love we get an inkling of the greater love that sustains us. Imagine everyone
being conscious of their own permanent nature of love. The only experience we
can feel continuously as satisfying us is love—tender love.
Body and Mind
the tools we have to use
to experiment with in finding out
what in life gives us
the permanent joy that we seek
Happiness
The balance
of active and quiet time
The taking of the tender insights
brought out from meditation
into the active roles that we play in life
Joy, peace, happiness, love
Finding God for ourselves
from within ourselves
16. Transformational Power of Heart Energy
The Divine Light of Love is
ever burning
Its flames the warmth
The blanket protecting us from
elements of earth and mind
Light of Love
Chase away the storms
that every day we only notice
Your pure shimmering flames
burning from your Cosmic Heart
Licking at our consciousness
Till we, too, are consumed eternally
in this most intense Love
When we are feeling love, we
are in touch with the radiance and vibrancy of our Creator-Sustainer's
illimitable energy.
By visualization we see and
think of vibrant-feeling energy as coming from our heart. The idealized and
idolized picture of a heart symbolizes love feelings. In pictures, the heart is
drawn in the upper center of the body in close proximity to the physical heart,
and is often show emitting sun-like rays of energy. The heart region is spoken
of variously as the heart chakra, heart center, seat of the soul—all meaning
the point of vibrant energy brought on by our loving and caring actions.
Looking at pictures of Christ with his Sacred Heart exposed we see the heart as
a self-effulgent sun, with rays of light streaming forth. The heart placed in
the upper center of the body symbolizes, also, that heart feelings are central
to the core of our nature.
In thinking of those we love
we feel our physical body heat up. The heat is the increase of energy
circulating in our body brought on by loving thoughts and feelings.
In becoming aware of our Radiant Self
our light and warmth
spring forth from within
We feel so good
in this increased flow of energy
We can choose to live in
this warm lovingly charged state by keeping our attitude in thoughts, words,
and actions one of real care and concern. By the power of our positive state of
mind and warm feelings, we draw this love-feeling energy into our bodily
processes, to be used in turn in our actions.
This abundant love-feeling
energy is the essence of our Creator's love. It is always available no matter
where we are, what we are doing, or what time of day it is. The love-feeling
energy is always freely there. What else but our Creator's love is totally and
limitlessly available to us? Whenever we are feeling love, we instantly feel
energized.
On the practical side, we
can change the low energy levels we feel when we are doing actions we do not
want to do into high energy, happy feelings, the instant we change to love and
caring feelings.
Any job becomes easier when
more energy is available. So, we feel better and have more energy just by
changing our attitude and feelings to love and care.
When we love, we care
When we care, we share
We share with all
the energy flowing freely through us
All are one
Truth is all and
Truth is perfection
In truth
All are One in perfection
Love is Blissful…
Love is blissful and happy,
ever present and self-sustaining, transcending time and place.
Feelings of love need no
object of manifestation. Love arises within our consciousness when we live in
harmony with all creation.
Love is unaffected by any
circumstance we can ever be in. Love can not be taken
from us. Every atom comprising our body, mind, and universe is in microscopic
harmony, and harmony feels like love to us.
Love is the only thing that
transcends mortal death. How can love transcend death? Science shows that no
matter is ever destroyed, just changes form—solid to liquid, to gas, to solid,
around and around. When the atoms in our body and mind change form at physical
death they still continue functioning harmoniously, lovingly, with each other.
So by this observation we see our innate harmony, love, still functions within
its changing state of being. Again, as science has shown, no atom is ever lost,
just in another form. So harmony goes on, love goes on forever and ever and
ever.
When we feel and become
conscious of our personal, self-sustaining harmony and love we are aligning
with our permanent Self.
To know and experience our
permanent Self takes practice. A way to realize our
permanent love connection is by acting in caring ways, observing how we feel
while being kind and loving, and then repeating those same kinds of actions,
again and again.
The Breath of Spring…
Warming spring winds breathe
across the land, their fragrant caresses invigorating man and nature. Hope
springs anew. Seeds burst open; grow; revealing their destiny. Animals give birth.
In life renewing itself, evolution unfolds.
The breath of spring enters
and acts upon our soul when we open ourselves to the expanded consciousness of
caring love. As the bud lies dormant during the long winter, and blossoms forth
when the warmth of spring is felt, so our dormant nature waits, repressed and
enclosed by the self-centered ego, till the radiance of loving energy is
experienced coming forth from our heart center.
When we interact lovingly
with humanity and the creation our lasting nature blossoms in glorious beauty
and fragrance. In giving of ourselves in caring ways we feel the warm glow of
energy in our body. We feel more energy after a caring act than before. This
warming heart-energy leaves us feeling complete within ourselves, harmoniously
enjoying peace and bliss.
The transformational power of heart energy
applied to living the highest good
Processes
Digests
Integrates
Resulting in clarity of mind
Relaxation with life
Loving
more and more and more
erases barriers
we thought were there
Filling our life
with more and more and more Love
17. True Love
True Love
Love that reflects the Truth
Experiencing another as an aspect
of our own eternal Self
which they truly are
In a love relationship
Recognizing, respecting
feeling inspired by our
beloved's True Self
The combined energy rebounding
between the beloveds'
Creating the presence
of a greater vibrant energy
It is no wonder that we all
seek True Love. A more permanent way to experience the 10,000-times magnification
of true love is by personally experiencing deep blissful loving communion in
meditation. The bliss of loving communion in meditation is always available to
us, whereas a human love may not always be present in the flesh.
Deep regular loving communion
in meditation expands our consciousness till we feel our own presence in
everyone and all creation. Our life becomes 10,000 times more vibrant when we
are in love with all creation.
True Love
In love with all creation
An experience glorious
in its 10,000-fold
magnification
18. Uncovering the Secrets of Unconditional Love
Scientific laws provide
harmony and balance
Unconditional love provides harmony and balance
Both are carried out
through the pervading energy of the universe
A life lived lovingly in concert with natural laws
integrates spiritual consciousness into daily living
The Only Permanent
Presence Unconditional Love…
Unconditional love can be
present during every facet of our changing world. It is the only constant
presence through life's ups and downs.
Unconditional Love given
Unconditional Love received
the circle of support we thrive on best
It is equally important to
allow ourselves to be loved unconditionally and to love unconditionally.
Giving unconditional love
means we show caring through others' good times and tribulations. Receiving
unconditional love means we let down our barriers; allowing another to listen
to us and give us care.
People are not so perfectly
evolved as to be able to give or receive unconditional love all the time, or
else they would not be living on this planet. We are here on earth in bodies
made up of physical, mental, and emotional aspects—powered by the unseen
universal energy. It is with the highest cooperation and integration of these
aspects that we most fully give love and receive love unconditionally. Every
caring effort, every reception of caring integrates our aspects into the most
beautiful self-realization of the souls we truly are.
The presence of Unconditional Love given and received
A circle of energy sustaining us
evolving us into our fullest potential
into the realization of the permanent joyful souls that we are
Transformational Love…
Transformational Love
empowers people toward awareness of their lasting nature of unbroken harmony,
peace, and bliss.
How do we have contact with
transformational love?
At first we see and feel
examples of its qualities in someone else. When we come into contact with a
person manifesting transformational love our body starts feeling energized,
heated up, while our mind becomes alert, but peaceful. In general, we feel in
tune with those around us and in harmony with the master plan of creation. We
feel drawn to people through their loving energy, as metal filings are drawn to
a magnet, totally and unequivocally. And, as those metal filings align
themselves
perfectly with the strong poles of the magnet,
we too, gradually, become aligned with the qualities of Transformational Love
we have been exposed to.
Transformational Love sparks
the process of going from disorder to the state of feeling and acting in
harmony, in accord with the natural order of the universe; its people and
environment. We become aware that even when outside events are upsetting, we
have the energy and insight to resolve any conflict or problem satisfactorily
for the highest good of ourselves and anyone else involved.
The Sun Within:
The sun is always shining
upon the earth; radiating its warmth and energy for our benefit. We grow from
baby to adult, making use of the sun's radiation, by eating the earth's
vegetation which has been converted to an assimilated form through
photosynthesis. The sun heats us when cold and makes the winds around our
planet flow and the rains wash us; quenching our thirst. We would not be living
as we are without the sun's direct and indirect nourishment.
So too, we manifest fully as
humans when radiated by the sun of Transformational Love. We grow into our full
human potential by our ability to use wisdom. As we grow into this potential we
begin to feel radiant and radiate transformational love upon those around us;
just as we were once awakened to our own inner sun by feeling the affect of transformational love from someone else who was
radiant.
Feeling Transformation Love
does not require any effort on our part. Instead, its effects energize us, and
the energy does not come from something or someone outside ourselves. Rather,
transformational love is as if someone turned on the switch to the light bulb
that is already inside us; having been waiting patiently to be lit up. We
suddenly and permanently feel the affects of inner
awakening as self sustained fullness, a sense of
balance in our life, bliss, harmony, and a genuine love of ourselves which we
then naturally and easefully reflect outwardly.
Loosening the Knots in
our Heart…
When we leave this life
the only thing that we take with us
is the content of our heart
Everything we do in our
daily life—everything we do in our whole life has but one purpose. That purpose
is to open wider, to expand the clear spaces between our egoistic thoughts,
that through these openings unconditionally loving energy is able to flow
upward into our conscious mind, giving us the experience of inner happiness.
The flow of unconditional love
is so vibrant and energized that it loosens, and undoes the knots of
constricted energy that we have placed in our precious sensitive heart—the
place in our consciousness where we've been holding past hurts, and the
unproductive idea that we need to get certain possessions, or control of a
person or people, in order to feel important, in order to feel happy.
As the knots in our heart
loosen, loosen, and are forever lost, we come to understand that our happiness
comes instead from our own ongoing loving attitudes and thoughts, which we then
manifest by our caring actions.
This is a complete turn around in attitude from the animal kingdom, which
truly does need to get in order to survive. But that attitude, that we have in
us from our instinctual nature, that also motivates us to do what we need to,
to sustain our biological lives, is very incomplete and inadequate in providing
our state of sustained happiness. This is the point of place where we rise
above the animal kingdom into our state of humankind. And in our state of
humanness we can choose to maintain or regain our feeling of happiness at any
time, by adjusting our own attitudes and thinking towards caring about others
and everything around us.
Energy does not come into
our body just by eating, drinking and breathing. The most vibrant energy flows
through us from an unseen source as we adopt the attitude of caring love. A
surge of vibrancy, akin to electricity, gives our body all the energy we need
to carry out our loving and caring thoughts.
Take a moment to reflect:
When someone suggests an activity that we enjoy, we suddenly feel renewed
energy rush through our body and we get right up—in fact, almost spring up,
ready for the promised enjoyment. If someone suggests that we need to do some
chore that is drudgery to us, we feel more lethargic than ever. This shows the
powerful connection that thoughts have in pulling more energy into our body,
instantly.
From scripture: "Man
does not live by bread alone, but by every word that pours forth from the mouth
of God."
'Man' = us
'bread'
= food, water, air
'every
word' = the vibrant cosmic energy
'pours
forth' = the outpouring of the vibrant energy
'mouth
of God' = the unseen, but ever present source of all energy.
This scripture is telling us
that in order to realize and fulfill our destiny as humans,
we need to do more than live a biological, animalistic, selfish and
self-centered life. When we make the self-effort to hold loving attitudes and
caring thoughts, we are then, additionally, 'fed' by the unseen, ever-flowing
vibrant cosmic energy - raising us above the experiences of the rest of the
animal kingdom, into consciousness of ever renewed, ever vibrant joy.
By the flow of unconditional love
the knots in our heart are loosened
Releasing to us
the unseen but ever available vibrant energy
extending and enlarging us
into the consciousness of ourselves as more than animals
Attitudes and actions of caring and lovingness
awakening us to our destiny of a happy state of mind
to our full experience of humanness
19. The Yearning to Merge
The yearning to merge is innate
Through interaction with people
we seek its fulfillment
Caring actions take us
beyond self-centeredness; we instead feel ourselves manifesting in others'
lives, which feels satisfying.
It is in loving unconditionally
energetically
that we experience what is beyond
our ego-centered self
As our individual
consciousness merges with the vast consciousness of creation we experience joy.
And in merging we feel complete as a person.
The experience of merging is
beyond lustful touching and egoistic mental interchange. It is through
surrendering our self-centered mental attitudes and our bodily surrendering
into caring actions, including caring intimacy, that we experience merging.
In merging we retain our own consciousness
while expanding our awareness
We are given the strong
yearning to merge in order to seek beyond our present self-centered reality and
realize that we are interwoven within the whole fabric of Creator-creation.
The yearning to merge
finding satisfaction
through our caring acts of love
Susan Helene Kramer is an international author of more than
50 books and thousands of articles on rhythmic dance, ballet, music,
philosophy, yoga, meditation and practical spirituality for children, teens,
adults and those challenged, with some translations in Dutch, French, German,
Greek and Spanish, and with her husband, Stan Schaap -
http://www.stanschaap.com lives in The Netherlands and California.
The
Yearning to Merge Copyright 1998-2015 Susan Helene Kramer
Santa Barbara, California USA
Amsterdam, The
Netherlands